tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post5963297455034114647..comments2023-10-20T11:17:47.246-04:00Comments on Two Nerdy History Girls: The trouble with educated womenUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-84336633768780590452010-04-15T22:27:16.392-04:002010-04-15T22:27:16.392-04:00The English gave up arranged marriages long before...The English gave up arranged marriages long before 1882, as Mrs. Trollope (quoted above) points out. Amanda Vickery's The Gentleman's Daughter, and her more recent Behind Closed Doors give numerous examples, as do a number of other historians. It's evident in biographies & memoirs. And yes, marriages were arranged after 1882. I'd put Consuelo Vanderbilt's marriage to the Duke of Marlborough in that category.LorettaChasehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03641586650738945106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-78658125231252395292010-04-15T21:30:49.790-04:002010-04-15T21:30:49.790-04:00Hi. I was referred to your blog by Hetty Sorrell,...Hi. I was referred to your blog by Hetty Sorrell, aka, Ruth Raven. I'm an author (yet unpublished) of late 19th cent. Historical Fic. My understanding is that the English gave up arranged marriages mostly because they ceased to be profitable after the Married Women's Property Act of 1882. Though of course royalty continued that tradition for some time later. Would your research contradict this, or, more specifically, would it challenge the idea that a marriage might be arranged even after that date?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-6862392506094877392010-04-12T19:27:27.041-04:002010-04-12T19:27:27.041-04:00Have times changed? 'Had a good friend tell me...Have times changed? 'Had a good friend tell me (late 1990s) that he'd never date an engineer, because she'd be more focused on her career than on rearing children. He was talking about another lady, but I was an engineer at the time! <br /><br />But there's hope. He ended up marrying a woman who jumps out of helicopters to rescue people! Ha!Elizabeth Saundershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01616212913975457786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-29147703179967624092010-04-12T02:53:11.919-04:002010-04-12T02:53:11.919-04:00Took a little too long for the world to get beyond...Took a little too long for the world to get beyond this mentality. Sad to know that there are still the occasional holdouts.wanderlustnpixiedusthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15503151558785166486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-85284326437837678712010-04-10T11:33:22.108-04:002010-04-10T11:33:22.108-04:00Man's an eejit. End of story.Man's an eejit. End of story.LaDonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01968888552738293014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-80171503168836659892010-04-09T20:47:40.796-04:002010-04-09T20:47:40.796-04:00Oh, good grief. That guy sounds like a doozy.Oh, good grief. That guy sounds like a doozy.d'Oliviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09818093802582317811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-76682222211910158722010-04-09T17:26:44.691-04:002010-04-09T17:26:44.691-04:00This definitely gives a deeper context to Gaudy Ni...This definitely gives a deeper context to <i>Gaudy Night</i> (one of my favorite books of all time).Susanna Fraserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16149293228696867804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-65590163966790768982010-04-09T16:20:36.673-04:002010-04-09T16:20:36.673-04:00See? This is why I love history so much!See? This is why I love history so much!LorettaChasehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03641586650738945106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-58129406866166465992010-04-09T15:33:14.673-04:002010-04-09T15:33:14.673-04:00There are no words, so I'm going to go for hys...There are no words, so I'm going to go for hysterical laughter and promise to drink an extra beer tonight at happy hour as a sort of "thumb my nose" at such an idiot.<br /><br />Hilarious...but informative!Hellie Sinclairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03933713255844695337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-6193381772285403562010-04-09T12:17:54.457-04:002010-04-09T12:17:54.457-04:00I met my husband when we were both in grad school ...I met my husband when we were <b>both</b> in grad school working on our M.A.'s. So in my view, ask me, higher ed. is the <b>best</b> method of obtaining the M.R.S. degree.Margaret Porterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16202290659191790984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-48016573777023638382010-04-09T10:48:45.636-04:002010-04-09T10:48:45.636-04:00Because educated women many have original thoughts...Because educated women many have original thoughts and ideas, and heaven forbid, be smarter than their mates.<br /><br />Oh dear, the world may surely end!<br /><br />So since my hubby is encouraging me to go back for my Masters, he must be deranged :)<br /><br />Too funny! I love reading historical cultural information. Thanks gals and enjoy your weekend!Jenny Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04077659644092707107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-25876432516502634772010-04-09T10:30:24.975-04:002010-04-09T10:30:24.975-04:00I am so very glad you have filed this under "...I am so very glad you have filed this under "Men Behaving Badly." *g*Isabella Bradford/Susan Holloway Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00997375216314200469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-7476774112118838352010-04-09T09:13:47.790-04:002010-04-09T09:13:47.790-04:00My mother used to get Ladies Home Journal, and I r...My mother used to get Ladies Home Journal, and I read the "Can this marriage be saved" column all the time. I loved it because it was like watching a train wreck. Who knew it was a lesson in applied Eugenics?<br /><br />Fascinating!Vanessa Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14571549124283013391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-74931666578021836622010-04-09T08:17:32.583-04:002010-04-09T08:17:32.583-04:00Oh that is too funny!
Just think how many of us wo...Oh that is too funny!<br />Just think how many of us would not exist had our parents and grandparents thought that way.<br />Isn't it amazing what nonsense people sometimes spout?Jane Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11758255884048194926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-85484319533089565892010-04-09T06:52:51.262-04:002010-04-09T06:52:51.262-04:00I probably had the opposite reaction to most of yo...I probably had the opposite reaction to most of your Readers I laughed. Imagine having a mind makes you unmarriageable! Oh Dear...Marilynnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-50333447463503540112010-04-09T06:39:32.689-04:002010-04-09T06:39:32.689-04:00Oh dear - I have a masters, maybe I should just ge...Oh dear - I have a masters, maybe I should just get on with the PhD since there's no hope for me!<br /><br />Thankfully, my boyfriend isn't threatened by my education (though I probably wouldn't be interested in him if he were!). We joke that we're competing for who has more qualifications as we've both spent a lot of time studying. I think he'd be bored with someone who was only interested in home-making and 'mothercraft', and I think many men are like that, which is why I find your article so fascinating! <br /><br />The only people who have ever had negative reactions to my 'over stuffed intellect' have been from older generations, but even then they have been few and far between. Perhaps I have been lucky; perhaps it's that the likes of Popenoe have been unlucky and unable to perpetuate the myth that education makes a woman unfit for, well, anything!<br /><br />Much as I love history and often romanticise it, it's this kind of thing that makes me very glad to be a citizen of the 21st century!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-47653216144197583592010-04-09T05:43:02.730-04:002010-04-09T05:43:02.730-04:00Ugh that just pisses my inner bra-burner off to th...Ugh that just pisses my inner bra-burner off to the max!Miss Tami Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09737048920324015594noreply@blogger.com