tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post2469395745282091023..comments2023-10-20T11:17:47.246-04:00Comments on Two Nerdy History Girls: Funeral Etiquette in the Early 19th CenturyUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-6754363118395127542017-10-27T09:33:56.097-04:002017-10-27T09:33:56.097-04:00Thank you—this is something I have wondered about....Thank you—this is something I have wondered about. Nonattendance seems somehow unnatural. It's not as if people pretended death didn't exist.Lilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07507054062472117994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5022318990784415929.post-80275853303128411832017-10-26T08:13:48.772-04:002017-10-26T08:13:48.772-04:00When discussing this on various lists we have com...When discussing this on various lists we have come up with mixed answers. Some recall grandmothers telling them that female members of the family didn't usually attend the burial even as late as the 20th century in their part of the country( England/Wales). Jane Austen's sister didn't attend her burial. Women often did attend the funeral inside the church for those who weren't closely related to them. Village funerals usually included men and women. I think it was a mixed bag.<br />One thing I found utterly shocking was that a nurse saw to the funeral and burial of a child and notified the parents by letter and the mother wrote back and said she hoped the nurse used the opportunity to warn the older siblings how they must always be good as they could die at any minute.<br />Jane Austen mentions dressing her nephews in mourning but doesn't mention whether or not she went to the funeral for her sister in-law.<br /> In the movie Sense and Sensibility the latest one, I think-- we see Mrs. Dashwood with her daughters following the coffin. Dramatic but hardly a true picture . Not that I doubted they might have attended the funeral but that they were the only mourners. John and his wife and others surely were there. <br /> Considering the ideas of sensibility rife at the time, I would think the men would want the close female relations to stay away from the burial lest they swoon or become hysterical. Regencyresearcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10828749339318882968noreply@blogger.com